Just after Christmas I shared this picture on my facebook profile – courtesy of George Takei…I believe in its sentiment – you can’t wish for a good life, you have to make it happen, sometimes you can’t do that overnight, but if you are clear about what makes you happy or perhaps more importantly unhappy, you can do the right things for you and make positive changes.
I’m not really one for new Year’s resolutions – not really, I don’t think the 1st January is any different from the 31st December or even the 15th March (have I randomly picked the ides there?) but as the light noticeably returns after the winter solstice, I do find myself taking stock and thinking what I want the future to hold for me and mine. At this point in time, these are my thoughts…
I’m still thinking about how I can manifest my support of women in maternity, childbirth and post natally – I talk and post things on facebook about it a lot – this might be the year I actually get hands on and I’m considering (still) possible diversions into midwifery or as a Doula.
I want to write more – so I will write more, just this evening I read this blog post, written by a friend of mine – I intend to apply it, and here I am writing a blog post…
I need to make the childminding make more money – I have some enquiries pending, if they don’t pan out, I need to be more active looking for others, and less passive. This will, I trust, support my other desires.
We have an idea to move (possibly) when our middle daughter, Daisy finishes Primary school – that’s only 2 and a half years away now, we should make a plan…
These things, I believe, will make me (and mine) happy, but then one of my aunts posted this great question under the picture:
“If we all did just one thing to make 2013 better for someone else, what would you do?”
I love this question – Resolutions are so often about the person making the resolution, lose weight, get fit, be happy and so on, not that these are bad aspirations but turning it around is a genius stroke and if we all did it, just one thing, then wouldn’t our communities be better places? The trouble is, and maybe this is why it doesn’t spring to mind is, it’s difficult. I like to think of myself as a compassionate and giving human being, but finding my answer to this question has been hard – just one thing, for someone else…
I could remember to take my Krill Oil every day, so I’m less snippy at my husband when the PMT’s strike – that would make his life better…
I could volunteer for the local integrated gym club, that Daisy used to attend, they are moving this year to a building not 200 yards from my front door – that wouldn’t even be too difficult and I might do it anyway, but I think my actual answer to the question is this:
I will make more time for my daughter to be 9. You’ll know if you’ve read my blog before, that Daisy is disabled following a brain tumour operation over 3 years ago. She doesn’t have a tumour any more, but she can’t walk well, speaks slowly and erratically and is generally clumsy. She’s still 9 though and wants to do things the way 9 year olds do them, and talk about things to me that 9 year olds want to talk about. The trouble is, if we’re (and by that I mean I’m) in a hurry, she gets cut off, I tell her what to do and when to do it. She complies but it makes me sad, and sometimes it makes her sad too. So on school days, I will get up promptly so that I am not in a rush, so that she can have the space to be 9. I will not hurry her when she’s trying to explain something I will try very hard not to interrupt – I should apply this to everyone actually, I know it annoys my husband too – and I will give her more opportunities to make her feelings and ideas known. This, I think, will make her life better, and that is what I will make so for 2013.
What will you do?